Most of us know that we want more money. Some of us have even taken steps toward earning more money for ourselves. The problem is, in spite of what we want and even do, many of us may be getting in our own way, and not even know it. So, in this article, I’m going to get really honest and share how you can get out of your own way, and position yourself to attract the money you want and deserve, once and for all.
It’s been proven again and again. When we’re open to asking ourselves hard questions, we get ruthlessly honest answers… it’s only then that we can begin to overcome obstacles and achieve the great things we dream about.
I’ve been a member now of three different Mastermind Groups. I have decided I will always be a member of one. Why? Because they are spectacular! They push you to be more than you are, educate you with knowledge you might not gain on your own and help you to ask yourself tough questions. If you’re one who gets offended easily or takes things personally, you wouldn’t like it. If you’re one that can hear people make observations and take to heart that there’s always a way to improve when you consider the truth in what’s being said, there is nothing like a Mastermind Group. As you might imagine, in the one I went to recently, I realized the truth that I’ve written in the title of this article.
It was my turn to present to the group. We’d had a considerable amount of success in growing our company since the last meeting, so I was certainly going to share that. This particular group’s expertise level is in Internet marketing. Mine is not, it’s in bricks and mortar (fixed location) businesses and inspiration and education. So there I was. The person who went before me talked about how all Internet marketers are ‘employee phoebes’. This means they really prefer to not have to ‘deal with’ employees ever and like either outsourcing work to India (literally) or they might have one person in their office. I stood up revved up! I LOVE working with my team!! I love working with people! I love the interaction, the communication, the growth, the family bond that occurs. I said that.
I told them, “Guys I LOVE working with my team. They ignite me, they challenge me, they keep me sharp!” I went on to tell how we’d had about 43 or so locations the last time I’d met with them and now we had 150+ different businesses or outlets distributing the Thin&Healthy program. This seemed to wow them. Remember, Internet is what they know and love. The fixed location world (where a business has an actual address that people come to) is something they aren’t familiar with. So, I told them, “We are really good at the fixed location business. We’ve grown; we know how to do it. You guys are awesome at Internet marketing. We’re not having success there yet. I’m so in awe of you guys. You are great at this thing that is frustrating me. I can’t seem to get it.”
I had taken a good-sized packet to show them some of our marketing materials and they’d told me they were all really good. I told them it was frustrating looking at this pieces and knowing with certainly how they would produce, but how I didn’t know how to do that with the Internet. Again, I said, “It’s so frustrating being so good at one thing and so not good at another. Good grief!! Business is business, marketing is marketing, sales is sales!! Why can’t we get this?!?!”
At this point one of my group members said, “Donna, you’re blocking your success. You’re preventing it from coming to you. You’re keeping people from wanting to work with you. You keep using words like ‘I’m so frustrated, I’m not getting it, we’re not good at it. Your belief, which is clearly reflected in your words, is keeping success away. It’s the basic Law of Attraction.” We discussed this briefly and I then went on with my presentation.
Remember I told you that one of the key factors in getting something out of a Master Mind Group is to receive whatever is said. I’m happy to report that I’m good at that. I thank them for their feedback (and I truly mean it- I’m not just saying it), I listen and I consider the truth in what’s being said. So I sat in my chair for the next many minutes thinking about what she’d said.
You know what? She was right. She was sooooo right! I hope you don’t read that as me being excited about this fact. I’m not, I’m sad. I am, however, excited about realizing it and deciding what to do about it. I’m sad because I am the ‘ORIGINAL BELIEVE LADY!’ Believe is the word I always used, I taught it, I practiced it, I LIVED IT!!!! I wasn’t just the one SAYING anyone could become anything they wanted to— I was the one adamantly BELIEVING it!!! You couldn’t convince me otherwise. I had lived the American Dream and my anointing, appointing and talents were in the arena of inspiring others to do the same. It’s how we grew the company. The last three and particularly two years of my life have contained challenges and circumstances quite different from what I’d seen in my previous years. It was during this time that my belief had shifted. I looked back over this time and asked myself what had happened. The answer came back so, so clear. I had allowed input into my mind that I KNEW was that of unbelief. Because I loved the person putting the, “It will NEVER work.” thoughts into my mind, I had bought into the deceiving idea that I could change this person and their belief. WRONG!!!!!! Instead I allowed multiple conversations of, “This will never work, people will never do that, no one can do this, you can’t do that…” to constantly continue. The thing that motivates me personally is the idea of helping someone else in the world do what I’ve done; go from rags to riches if you will. At one point in time I allowed the input, “No one can do that DONNA!!! No one can do what you’ve done!!!” I realize now it was at that point in time that I began believing I was a fraud. How could I speak and tell people they could do this if it wasn’t true? How could I grow my company if there was no hope of people succeeding? I WAS BUYING INTO THE LIE!!! From there on out every conversation containing, “this can’t be done’ pulled me down deeper. Until one day in Bethesda, Maryland I proclaimed to a group of my peers that I couldn’t do it. OH MY GOSH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I had succumbed to the lie and was now professing it as truth!!
I am happy to report to you that I KNOW this isn’t who I am. I AM the believer, I do KNOW people can know the same success I’ve known… And then some! I do know that’s exactly what helped us grow a company of motivated, inspired individuals! And I’m truly happy to tell you the lie of unbelief won’t be crossing my mind and surly my lips again!
So, my belief is intact. How’s yours? I will now be ATTRACTING success— as I always have. I will not be repelling accomplishment! If you catch yourself thinking thoughts or saying words like, “I’ll never make money,” you need to take ownership right now that you’re blocking your success and keeping big finances from coming your way. If you’re claiming words like, “No one can make money at this. My goals are too big for this.” or, “I’ll never pay off my bills and build my retirement,” these words reflect your belief and they absolutely, positively, no maybes will become a self-fulfilling prophecy! We’re either attracting our desires and seeing them become reality or we’re simply keeping them away. What kind of belief are you demonstrating? Please realize today, it’s something this simple which is determining where you are in life.